Method
When you register, individually or together, a first appointment can be
made on a short term. During this consult I determine together with you
whether system therapy is indicated or a different or additional
therapy would be appropriate. Purpose of the therapy is to eventually
change behaviour patterns related to your complaints. It is important
in the therapy, however, to not only deal with the behaviour. Obstacles
that are in the way of change are often in the emotional sphere,
whereby safe attachment is the central theme.
Both in the individual therapy and the couple therapy, I work mainly
with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
EFT helps address the core questions we often ask ourselves about our
most
important relationship: "Do I matter deeply to my partner? Will he/she
be there for me when I need them most? Do I feel safe and secure enough
in this relationship to be my full and authentic self?"
These questions are typically at the root of what couples fight about:
the emotional bond and security in their relationship. When we fear
that the answer to one of the above questions may be "no," it can cause
us to feel isolated and alone, and sometimes as though we are fighting
for survival itself.
And fight we will. Or withdraw.
EFT - a highly researched, effective, and evidence-based
treatment - focuses on the emotional bond between partners,
presuming that most relational problems arise from a disruption in this
bond. It helps partners learn not only to be more open and trusting
with each other, but also to reach out for one another more
effectively.
In a system therapeutic
treatment one usually works from various perspectives.
After the first appointment I make arrangements
with you about the duration and frequency of the treatment. Research on
EFT show a complete recovery of satisfaction in the
relationship in 70-75% of the cases within 10-15 sessions and an
important improvement in 86-90%. These results prove stable over a long
period, even under high stress.
