Method
When you register, individually or together, a first appointment can be made on a short term. During this consult I determine together with you whether system therapy is indicated or a different or additional therapy would be appropriate. Purpose of the psychotherapy is to eventually change behaviour patterns related to your complaints. It is important in the therapy, however, to not only deal with the behaviour. Obstacles that are in the way of change are often in the emotional sphere, whereby safe attachment is the central theme.
Both in the individual therapy and the couple therapy, amongst others I work with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
EFT helps address the core questions we often ask ourselves about our most important relationship: "Do I matter deeply to my partner? Will he/she be there for me when I need them most? Do I feel safe and secure enough in this relationship to be my full and authentic self?"
These questions are typically at the root of what couples fight about: the emotional bond and security in their relationship. When we fear that the answer to one of the above questions may be "no," it can cause us to feel isolated and alone, and sometimes as though we are fighting for survival itself.
And fight we will. Or withdraw.
EFT - a highly researched, effective, and evidence-based treatment - focuses on the emotional bond between partners, presuming that most relational problems arise from a disruption in this bond. It helps partners learn not only to be more open and trusting with each other, but also to reach out for one another more effectively.
In a system therapeutic treatment one usually works from various perspectives.
After the first appointment I make arrangements with you about the duration and frequency of the treatment. Research on EFT show a complete recovery of satisfaction in the relationship in 70-75% of the cases within 10-15 sessions and an important improvement in 86-90%. These results prove stable over a long period, even under high stress.
